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Hiatus

One the recommendation of my wonderful girlfriend I’m going to take a hiatus from this site for a while.
I have PTSD from sexual violence and seeing a lot of the mysogynistism and violence seems to be triggering me so I’m going to take a break from being exposed to it for a while.
I’m very sorry to all my followers and hope to be back in the not too distant future.

betterthandarkchocolate:

classy-twerk:

Falling in love doesn’t cure depression or self harm. It won’t just disappear because your in a relationship with that person. So be prepared for the mood swings and the relapses. Most of all just be patient and understanding.

THIS IS SO IMPORTANT FOR PEOPLE TO UNDERSTAND.

It’s okay to change your yes to a no. Yes’s aren’t permanent. They’re something we choose again and again, each and every day. Something we have the right to recall and reconsider as soon as saying yes no longer feels conducive to our wellbeing and happiness. It d.oesn’t matter whether you said yes to a job, a date, a relationship, sex, a favor to a friend, a social endeavor, or a vow of silence — you don’t ever have to commit to something that forces you to compromise who you are and what feels right; especially if it’s something you agreed to under pressure, intimidation, or force. Changing your yes to a no might make people angry. It might hurt their feelings, cause them to see you as a flake, and result in lost connections. But if saying no means staying true to yourself, honoring your feelings, and making self-care a priority, it’s worth it. You are worth it. Don’t let anyone convince you otherwise

- Daniell Koepke (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

daftlypunk:

do not flirt with women when they are at work

do not take advantage of women who are in situations where they cannot say no or be blunt

(Source: yovahkiin)

imaginexmagic:

I fucking love Wonder Woman.

(Source: katherinemayfair)

official-sebastian-strider:

thee-cobalt-lightning:

bscentralvids:

evapukesrainbows:

OMFG OKAY SO one of my classmates, L, came into lesson late this morning wearing a full circle princess dress, and eye shadow and eyeliner. He said to our teacher, “Sorry I am late” as we all looked up, he sat down. It was followed by laughter and giggles mostly from girls. Some of the boys were just in awe.
"Why are you wearing a dress, L?" I asked him “Because I felt like looking pretty today” He smiled confidently but seemed quite conscious that everyone went a little quiet.
THEN my friend (you can see her hand in the picture, holding a blue marker) walks in and says, “WHAT THE FUCK, thats taking the piss.” I quickly said, ” He looks great, he can wear whatever he wants” She goes, ” No yeah I KNOW but what the fuck he puts on eyeliner and wears dresses better than I do!”
Yep.

Forever reblog

that’s gonna be me in a few years

he’s hella cute 1000/10

official-sebastian-strider:

thee-cobalt-lightning:

bscentralvids:

evapukesrainbows:

OMFG OKAY SO one of my classmates, L, came into lesson late this morning wearing a full circle princess dress, and eye shadow and eyeliner. He said to our teacher, “Sorry I am late” as we all looked up, he sat down. It was followed by laughter and giggles mostly from girls. Some of the boys were just in awe.

"Why are you wearing a dress, L?" I asked him
“Because I felt like looking pretty today” He smiled confidently but seemed quite conscious that everyone went a little quiet.

THEN my friend (you can see her hand in the picture, holding a blue marker) walks in and says, “WHAT THE FUCK, thats taking the piss.”
I quickly said, ” He looks great, he can wear whatever he wants”
She goes, ” No yeah I KNOW but what the fuck he puts on eyeliner and wears dresses better than I do!”

Yep.

Forever reblog

that’s gonna be me in a few years

he’s hella cute 1000/10

thegreenwolf:

"Not all men are like that."

That’s fine. What are you doing about the ones that are?

stupidstagram:

women are more likely than men to develop a mental illness but you rarely hear about women going on shooting sprees because men won’t be with us or love us or fuck us, bottom line, if you’re willing to relate mental illness and mass murder while also refusing to relate misogyny to women dying at the hands of men, then bye bye no time for you 

(Source: natnovna)

friendlycloud:

myunclehasabassguitar:

the problem, as i see it:

contrary to popular belief, feminism is not a movement against men, it is a movement for women.

and contrary to popular belief, men’s rights activism is not a movement for men, it is a movement against women.

This.

Perfect summary.

(Source: myskeletonhasaghostguitar)

soulrevision:

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(Part 2) TRIGGER WARNING …

So, by now you have all heard of 22 year old Elliot Rodger who went on a killing spree in Isla Vista, a community in Santa Barbara, California. One Friday night, Elliot shot and killed 7 people, including himself, close to the University of California Santa Barbara campus.

Prior to his violent shooting rampage, Elliot recorded a video titled, Day of Retribution in which he states, “college is the time when everyone experiences those things such as sex and fun and pleasure. In those years I’ve had to rot in in loneliness, it’s not fair.” and “you girls have never been attracted to me, I don’t know why you girls aren’t attracted to me, but I will punish you all for it”.

About a month ago, after seeing some of Elliot’s YouTube videos, his family contacted authorities. Law Enforcement interviewed Elliot and said they found him to be a ‘perfectly polite, kind and wonderful human’ and took no further action.

Now we have media outlets labeling Elliot as a “mad man”, “spoiled brat”, “misunderstood”, “good human” etc and continuing to file this mass murder under mental health.

Understand that no one is saying that he did not suffer from mental illness, I’m sure he does. But we CANNOT ignore the fact that this mass killing was rooted in his hate of women (misogyny) and inability to properly deal with rejection. There is much to unpack about this incident, how it was handled and how it will be portrayed in the media, but for now I’ll post some tweets from those of us responding to the shooting on twitter.

For more info about the shooting: http://bit.ly/1mjerdo

Elliot Rodgers, Day of Retribution video: http://youtu.be/FWWGtee14pA

Elliot was also racist: http://bit.ly/1h0BniC

Three more bodies found at Elliot’s apartment: http://bit.ly/RnzYWP

Elliot Rodgers 140 page manifesto, My Twisted World: http://bit.ly/1nGaWwX

violette-reverie:

whowasntthere:

azephirin:

I am a woman. I am a practicing attorney. I am the only woman in my office over the age of 35 who doesn’t color her hair. I have some gray, but not a lot yet, and I never seriously considered coloring my hair until this job. I don’t want to: it’s expensive and a pain in the ass to keep up. About a year ago, I was in court, and a female attorney walked in with curly, bobbed, naturally gray hair, and her mere act of publicly displaying her natural hair color seemed not just unusual but defiant. Meanwhile many men in my office and in the courts have gray hair, and I doubt anyone thinks twice about it.

What a beautiful photoset of women. Women we don’t often see portrayed in the media, but these are, indeed, women — just as grey-haired men are men.

I can’t wait for grey. I hope it’s more on the white side.

(Source: violenceandscience)

knowhomo:

LGBTQ* Playwrights You (Should) Know
And a Playwright’s Request
Christina Quintana
Plays:
The Next Thing; Evensong; Enter Your Sleep; 
Gumbo; Scissoring; The Gay Play; Blank Canvas
"The playwright, poet and essayist Cherríe Moraga once described art as “the expression of the deep soul that inspires collectivism and wards off the suicide of isolation.” With inspiration from every soul I come across and these words as my manifesto, my plays proclaim, “You are not alone.”​
A Playwright’s Request:
Hello Everyone, 
Rebecca, of KNOWhomo, here. Playwright extraordinaire and close friend, Christina Quintana, is starting a new project and is seeking out one-on-one time to conduct a series of interviews and coffee house conversations for her next production. 
She writes: 
“Friends, I’m very interested in developing a play/piece of theater specifically about the experiences of significant others of trans individuals. I am particularly looking at the role of identity in partnership, how that identity shifts, and the varying impacts, both positive and negative, on that partner. Like all my projects, the interview process is purely to gain truth, and for anyone who offers his/her time and stories, all will remain confidential.”
I have personally read many of Christina’s plays and am always humbled the dedication and talent she has for transforming individual stories into masterful works for hungry audiences. I can personally vouch for her charming spirit and sincere passion for creating safe spaces. 
If you are in the NYC area or are comfortable communicating and sharing your insight through online media, you can email her at: clquinta@gmail.com.
Thank you for considering being a part of this project. Please feel free  to tell her that you’re part of the amazing internet community and family we have made.
And as always,
Keep On, Keeping On! 
Rebecca, creator and co-moderator of KNOWhomo.tumblr

knowhomo:

LGBTQ* Playwrights You (Should) Know

And a Playwright’s Request

Christina Quintana

Plays:

The Next Thing; Evensong; Enter Your Sleep;

Gumbo; Scissoring; The Gay Play; Blank Canvas

"The playwright, poet and essayist Cherríe Moraga once described art as “the expression of the deep soul that inspires collectivism and wards off the suicide of isolation.” With inspiration from every soul I come across and these words as my manifesto, my plays proclaim, “You are not alone.”​

A Playwright’s Request:

Hello Everyone, 

Rebecca, of KNOWhomo, here. Playwright extraordinaire and close friend, Christina Quintana, is starting a new project and is seeking out one-on-one time to conduct a series of interviews and coffee house conversations for her next production. 

She writes:

Friends, I’m very interested in developing a play/piece of theater specifically about the experiences of significant others of trans individuals. I am particularly looking at the role of identity in partnership, how that identity shifts, and the varying impacts, both positive and negative, on that partner. Like all my projects, the interview process is purely to gain truth, and for anyone who offers his/her time and stories, all will remain confidential.”

I have personally read many of Christina’s plays and am always humbled the dedication and talent she has for transforming individual stories into masterful works for hungry audiences. I can personally vouch for her charming spirit and sincere passion for creating safe spaces. 

If you are in the NYC area or are comfortable communicating and sharing your insight through online media, you can email her at: clquinta@gmail.com.

Thank you for considering being a part of this project. Please feel free  to tell her that you’re part of the amazing internet community and family we have made.

And as always,

Keep On, Keeping On! 

Rebecca, creator and co-moderator of KNOWhomo.tumblr

Tweets concerning UCSB shooting, misogyny, and masculinity by Imran Siddiquee, Director of Communications for The Representation Project, the organization behind Miss Represenation and the soon-to-be-released documentary The Mask You Live In

(Source: jonathantylerh)

rasenth:

I felt so angry at the UCSB massacre (an article about this incident and a script of his video’s speech) and the sexism we’re blind to everyday so I drew about my opinions on sexism to channel my rage.

I’m very happy the #YesAllWomen tag is going strong on U.S. Twitter right now. :D